August Marriage Message
Sometimes you hurt the one you love. In fact you probably hurt the one you love more than anyone else. So what can you do to help restore that relationship. Here are a few things to remember when you need to say you’re sorry.
1. Admit to yourself, and to your spouse that your behavior has been hurtful.
2. Apologize and show genuine regret for your behavior.
3. Do not add any exuses or justification.
4. Listen to and accept what your spouse is feeling.
5. Apologize again and accept responsibilty.
Don’t forget that just because you apologize, it doesn’t mean the other person has to forgive you right away. Give it time and allow them to go through the process on their own time. On the other hand, it is important for a spouse that has been hurt to be able to release themselves and the other person from the incident. Holding on to a hurt only does further damage, forgiveness is the only way to relieve the pain.
The good news is that couples usually end up closer and more connected after they go through a difficult time. Love may hurt sometimes but, much like a bone that has been broken, it becomes stronger when repaired.