4 Questions to ask yourself about the DATE.
Do you know the person well enough to determine if they are “date-able” or safe?
Are you clear about the purpose and reasons for the date?
Thought about protecting the purity and feelings of yourself and the other person?
Examined your heart to see if your motives are pure?
We live in a culture that defines dating in so many ways that it can be hard to figure out what is what. It is important to know and understand what you consider dating to be and why. The spectrum is extreme. For some dating means little more than a one night stand while others consider it to be the process from which they will determine their spouse for life. Making sure you and the other person understand your expectations is very important in protecting your physical and emotional well being.
Unfortunately it is hard to break out of Hollywood myths about dating that confuse us with stories of unrealistic romance and mystical “love at first sight.” Most of what we see in movies and on TV is over sexed, over romanticized, non-realistic, and just plain lust at first sight. If we want to find out what real love is we must turn away from the Hollywood hype and look toward positive and real examples of true love in our everyday lives.
Love does not happen in the midst of champagne and strawberries in Paris. That is merely attraction and emotions. Love happens as a result of sacrifice and commitment. It is something you decide, not something you merely feel. Emotions come and go, but love endures. It never fails. Love puts the needs of others ahead of the needs of self.
Hopefully future love is the goal and purpose of the DATE. If not, why are you wasting your time? Maybe before you DATE again you need to figure out exactly when, why, and what that looks like for you. If you don’t know what you want or what you are looking for, how will you know when you find it?
DID YOU KNOW?
Research* indicates that married people are better off financially, live longer, are healthier, and have better sex.
*Marriage Savers Manual by Michael J. McManus pp. 14-15 © 2000
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