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After marriage, we became a team. Being a team means working together to make decisions, save money, spend money, cook, clean and do the laundry — the less than glamorous parts of marriage that we sometimes don’t think about before we say “I Do.” Being part of a team also means making sacrifices — sacrificing what “I” want for something that will make my spouse happy. Are you willing to give up the remote for an evening? Now, that’s sacrifice!

Do we understand our differences as husband and wife? We were created differently as male and female. We have different personalities, families of origin and ways of thinking. Research tells us that most couples will disagree on about 75% of issues. We need to learn to disagree agreeably. The art of compromise is a necessity in marriage. We need to learn to value our spouse’s opinions. We don’t have to agree with it, but we need to listen and understand what our spouse thinks and why. We need to learn to use the phrase “I need” or “I feel”. After expressing an opinion there needs to be brainstorming so that both partners feel like a win-win situation has been accomplished.

Check out the posts below for our upcoming workshops or see our events calendar.

For the Fun of It

Posted by on Mar 18, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

For the Fun of It

Sometimes, in a marriage, the only time couples communicate one on one is to deal with something serious like a conflict or difficult situation.  Over time the thought of conversations with your spouse can bring negative feelings or event a sense of dread. In order to break out of that pattern, it is important to have fun conversations with your spouse as well.  They don’t have to be serious, deep, or intentional.  It can just be an opportunity to get to know things you didn’t know before or just an opportunity to be silly. Below...

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Money Talks

Posted by on Mar 3, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

Money Talks

Many couples cite “money issues” as one of the major causes of conflict in their marriage. While finances is an issue that can cause stress in a marriage, more often then not it is not the “money issues” that cause a conflict. It is a lack of communication and understanding when dealing with the topic of money. Many couples are unaware or not accepting of their partners tendencies/attitudes toward money. For instance if you are a saver and they are a spender you may resent the fact that they don’t want to save for your future and they may...

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Dating My Spouse

Posted by on Feb 4, 2015 in Featured, Marriage Tips, Married | 27 comments

Dating My Spouse

Get your 2015 Button! Community Marriage Builders is continuing the “Dating My Spouse” campaign for 2015. The program is designed to encourage married couples to set a regular date night at least once a month. The idea is that CMB will sell buttons for $25 and those buttons will allow couples to receive special discounts (i.e. buy-one get-one free) at local establishments. The discounts will run at all participating establishments from Monday through Thursday starting at 5:00 p.m. on the second full week of each month. The program will begin...

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7 Ways to Give Your Spouse a Better Mate

Posted by on Feb 3, 2015 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

7 Ways to Give Your Spouse a Better Mate

Flowers and candy are fine but don’t you want to give your spouse something more, something that will have a lasting impact on your marriage.  If the answer is yes, then this year give your valentine something truly special…a better you.  Just try one or all of the following: 1.  Take responsibility.  Decide that you are responsible for your own actions and issues instead of blaming someone else. 2.  Grow as a person.  Learn something new or work on an area of yourself that needs improving. 3.  Find Perspective.  Get outside your...

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4 Ways to Ruin Your Holidays

Posted by on Dec 3, 2014 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

4 Ways to Ruin Your Holidays

Even though most people love the holidays, they  can still be stressful.  If you’re not careful they can be more draining than up lifting.   If you want to have a holiday season that brings joy to your world then you need to AVOID the following: 1.  Care more about the “stuff” you’re giving and receiving rather than the people associated with the giving and receiving.  Fret and worry about what to give and what you are going to get.  Spend lots of money and go into debt, if you have to, because you know that the best...

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Top 6 Marriage Monsters

Posted by on Oct 1, 2014 in Marriage Tips, Married | 1 comment

Top 6 Marriage Monsters

Monster- “a powerful thing that cannot be controlled and that causes many problems.” Many things can be monsters in your marriage but this month we are going to look at 6 powerful things that CAN be controlled and that cause many problems. 1.  Manipulation – using your influence or power to change your spouse’s opinions, feelings or behavior to benefit yourself.   2.  Criticizing – pointing out the faults of your spouse to “help them get better” or to make yourself feel better.   3.  Blaming – assigning...

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4 Ways to Vacate Your Marriage!

Posted by on Aug 5, 2014 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

4 Ways to Vacate Your Marriage!

The summer is ending and what lessons have you learned from all your activities?  In particular, what insights did you gain from your vacation?  None?  Good thing we are here to help you apply the lessons you learned from your vacation to your marriage in order to gain better perspective and attitude.  So the following are four things that you probably do while you are on vacation that you should be doing all the time in your marriage. 1.  Plan and Look Forward to It – One of the best parts of a vacation is the anticipation and...

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How to Avoid the 7 Deadly Sins in a Marriage!

Posted by on Jun 3, 2014 in Marriage Tips, Married | 3 comments

How to Avoid the 7 Deadly Sins in a Marriage!

Remember the “7 deadly sins”? You may have heard about them at church, in a movie, or from your parents. They are a list of behaviors that can get you in real trouble and can destroy the joy and happiness in your life. Those same behaviors can destroy a marriage as well, but instead of looking at the behaviors you don’t want to do let’s look at the other side of the coin. What are things that can be put into practice that will foster the joy and happiness that you are looking for in your marriage. 1. Have eyes only for your spouse. Focus all...

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5 Ways To Lego Your Marriage!

Posted by on Apr 2, 2014 in Marriage Tips, Married | 0 comments

5 Ways To Lego Your Marriage!

Legos are fun because you get to build your own masterpiece brick by brick. Similarly your marriage must be built brick by brick with positive choices every day in order for it to be fun. Sometimes marriage is packaged as “no assembly required” to be received “happily ever after”, but that’s not the case. A true marriage masterpiece must be built piece by piece, day by day. Here are five daily decisions that you can make to help build your marriage masterpiece:   1. When you are with your spouse, give them...

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Revive – skills for distressed couples

Posted by on Feb 12, 2014 in Featured, Married, Workshops | 46 comments

Revive – skills for distressed couples

The Revive workshop for distressed couples is offered multiple times per week.  It gives couples practical skills to help them work out their issues on their own.  Topics include:  communication, conflict resolution, anger management, letting go of grudges, and learning to love your spouse in appropriate ways.   You will be equipped with the tools you need to bring life and vitality back to your relationship. There is no “group sharing” and workshop numbers are kept low so that couples can get more one-on-one time with the...

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